9 types of stuck

There are 9 Hidden Patterns That Keep Smart, Capable Women Playing Small

If you feel like you should be happy but something’s off…
If you’re overwhelmed, overthinking, or secretly afraid to slow down…
If you’re craving more clarity, energy, freedom—and you’re not sure where to start…

You’re in the right place.

🔍 Start Here: Find Your Stuck Style

There’s a reason you keep hitting the same wall. And it has everything to do with the internal story that’s been running the show behind the scenes.

The good news? Once you understand your pattern, you can change it.

That’s what the Enneagram helps us do.
This powerful tool reveals the unconscious habits, fears, and motivations that shape how you move through the world—especially when you're stuck, overwhelmed, or on the edge of change.

But don’t worry—we’re not diving into theory.
We’re going straight to the real-life feelings that are keeping you stuck… based on your Stuck Style.

💭 So… What’s Your Stuck Style?

Here’s how you might be feeling, depending on your dominant pattern (aka Enneagram type):

🌟 The Reformer (Type 1) – The Overachiever with the Inner Critic

You do everything “right”—but it’s never enough.
You hold yourself (and others) to impossible standards, and you’re exhausted from always striving.
You’re craving rest… but you feel guilty for even wanting it.

🌟 The Helper (Type 2) – The Giver Who Forgets Herself

You’re the one everyone turns to.
You love being needed—but secretly wish someone would just ask you how you’re doing.
You’re stuck in cycles of overgiving, and you're finally wondering, “When is it my turn?”

🌟 The Achiever (Type 3) – The Performer Who’s Lost the Script

From the outside, you look like you're crushing it.
But inside, it feels like you’re performing someone else’s life.
You long to slow down, be seen for who you really are, and stop measuring your worth by productivity.

🌟 The Individualist (Type 4) – The Deep Feeler in a Shallow World

You feel everything—deeply.
You crave meaning, authenticity, and beauty… but often feel misunderstood or out of place.
You’re stuck in self-comparison and longing, unsure how to move forward with grace.

🌟 The Investigator (Type 5) – The Thinker Trapped in Her Head

You crave knowledge and control.
But when emotions come up, your instinct is to retreat, analyze, and withdraw.
You’re stuck in overthinking, and you long to feel safe enough to show up fully.

🌟 The Loyalist (Type 6) – The Planner Living in “What If?”

You’re always scanning for danger—even when things are fine.
You want to feel secure and supported, but fear makes it hard to trust yourself.
You’re stuck in doubt and decision paralysis, and you're ready to stop second-guessing everything.

🌟 The Enthusiast (Type 7) – The Fun Seeker Who’s Afraid to Sit Still

You keep it light. You move fast. You chase the next exciting thing.
But deep down, you’re scared of what might rise up in the stillness.
You’re stuck in distraction, and your soul is craving something deeper.

🌟 The Challenger (Type 8) – The Strong One Who’s Tired of Holding It All

You’re bold, driven, and protective.
But vulnerability? Not your comfort zone.
You’re stuck in “doing it all alone,” and you quietly wonder what it would be like to soften.

🌟 The Peacemaker (Type 9) – The Easygoing One Who’s Lost Her Spark

You’re the calm in the storm… but your own desires often take a back seat.
You avoid conflict to keep the peace—but it’s left you disconnected from your own voice.
You’re stuck in numbness and indecision, and you’re ready to come back to life.

🧭 Find Out Your Type

You don’t need to guess—we’ve got you.

I created a simple, intuitive series of questions to help you figure out which pattern most likely matches you.

💛 Why This Work Matters

Understanding your Stuck Style is just the beginning. Inside my signature program Your Best Life Now, we use the Enneagram as one of many tools to help you:

Reconnect with your core values
Rewrite the stories that are keeping you small
Reprogram limiting beliefs on a subconscious level
Create a life that’s actually aligned—with who you are and what you truly want

✨ This is how real transformation begins—with awareness, compassion, and the courage to do something different.

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Let’s uncover who you are underneath the patterns—and start building the life that’s been waiting for you. 💫